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The Texting Game
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John and I chat when I get back to my office for the next 3 hours. Time flies..it's fun..funny..real nice. At the end of the day, I text John my number - a big reveal on my part.
That night..John and I text for a little while. He's really cute. Wants to do dinner one day. Invited me over next week to spend a day or two (not nights) together. He says cute things..he's like..like I had before ...like I want. Like I've been searching for.
At the end of the night I say I'll talk to you tomorrow.
"OK. I'll text you when I wake up?"
"See? That's cute. I like that..'text me in the morning when you wake up!' Absolutely!" I say.
The next day, I wake up..hit the gym as usual. When I get out of the gym, there's a text from John. But..it's a video text. It's him..his face..obviously in bed. Saying "Good morning."
Now...I don't know. All was good. Seemed right. We chat on the phone after I get on the road to work and chat all morning that day. But..a video?
What's wrong with this picture?
Emails..he's very "expressive" in them..saying how happy he is to hear from me..after we speak on the phone he tells me how glad he is to hear from me...and how he's looking forward to seeming me..or wants to see me.
The next day, we meet at a park during lunch and sit and just talk in my car. I pull into the lot and wave him into my car. He jumps in and lands a kiss right on my mouth. Good right?! Well..I don't have tints on my windows..I don't know who's around. Hey..I'm a married guy..yea..I mess around with guys..but, I'm totally discreet..totally careful. This guy is getting married - in a month! He has no problem gushing over me, telling me how excited he is to see me..sending me videos..! What is going on here?
We sit and talk. He has always been very dismissive when talking about his upcoming nuptials, but I understand...you have to be somewhat discreet. But..it all just doesn't jive.
"Listen, I know you don't like talking about it..but..it's part of my life. I'm married..if I can't share that part of me with you..you know..how it is that we feel..the guilt, the stress of leading a double life it doesn't make sense. I need to share this stuff with someone..that's part of the relationship I'm looking for. What I don't get is..you're getting married...and you have no problem doing this..the guilt..the commitment."
"That's me" he says. "Guess it's my personality"
"Well, maybe you're right..cause I guess I don't know you very well yet."
A little while later our hour and a half is up..and he extends his hand to shake it goodbye..and my hand ends up in his..and he holds it.
"Glad you were able to hang out" he says.
6 comments:
It's nice that he's expressive... It appears he understands your position (noting the handshake) and is trying to accommodate that. He sounds like a keeper to me... I had a two year thing with another married guy - he was also a bit more open than I preferred. He & his wife moved back to San Diego and, more than once, I've found myself wishing he were still here.
Don't give up on this dude - because being bi and married and wanting (needing!) to express this side of yourselves to feel like whole human beings is best when BOTH people are experiencing the same thing.
BLM,
I agree, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. If he meets your difficult conditions, and only seems a bit too eager, I don't think you should falt him. Seems like the start of something good, but you are right to be concerned that the other show will drop when he gets married.
I'm like John. When I meet my buddies I light-up. Unlike John, I usually manage to put a cap on it pretty quick. I am an affection guy, but not clingy or attached. It took my buddies a while to get used to the fact that I was not going to stalk them or pester them at home or insist they run off with me. It's just the way I am. So, I suggest you just express to John both your concern and your way of emoting. Just so you both don't misunderstand. I speak English but I'm damned if I always understand my fellow worker from Liverpool.
We can't always get what we want; but if you try some time you can get what you need.
Why be so picky? Just be glad he's attracted to you, and isn't afraid to express it. Put another ten years on your clock, and it's going to be much more difficult to stir up this kind of interest, so enjoy it while you can.
he seems like a kid. u might enjoy that, but i think it will cost u some effort. question if u want that.
you sure that this guy is really getting married?
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