But, do you think me being with guys is better than me cheating on her with a girl? I've never been with another girl while being married - although I could have many opportunities. I contend the reason I'm with guys is that they provide something my wife can't (there are those that will contend I'm gay, that's why I have never been with another girl).
If you were a girl, and I cheated on you with a girl..would that make you feel worse? Or if finding out I had been with a guy, would you say "at least he didn't cheat on me with a girl?"
Again, I know it's not ideal..but at least there's no competition here.