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Well, I guess Kasey wasn't so into things as it turns out.
After the weekend, I texted him on Grindr. No response. Knowing how flaky Grindr is, I texted him again a while later...and getting the blow off feeling..sent him a final text saying "if you're not into it, just let me know." I have no problem with someone who's not attracted to me, or who just isn't into it for some other reason..just would like some confirmation..think it's only polite, especially after leading me on that things would progress.
"Listen, think I'm gonna pass" Kasey Says.
"Yea? All of a sudden?" I ask.
"Well, you lied about your age" he says.
Yes, I did misrepresent my age on Grindr. I said I was 40...only because anyone I ever meet says I don't look my age. Some had even suggested I lie about my age..so I did. But, when I confirmed my correct age to Kasey when we met, he said it wasn't a problem..that he didn't really care about age.
So? Why would he say that then use that as an excuse? After all, when we left each other he was planning on me coming over to see his "big apartment."
Oh well..his loss.
After the weekend, I texted him on Grindr. No response. Knowing how flaky Grindr is, I texted him again a while later...and getting the blow off feeling..sent him a final text saying "if you're not into it, just let me know." I have no problem with someone who's not attracted to me, or who just isn't into it for some other reason..just would like some confirmation..think it's only polite, especially after leading me on that things would progress.
"Listen, think I'm gonna pass" Kasey Says.
"Yea? All of a sudden?" I ask.
"Well, you lied about your age" he says.
Yes, I did misrepresent my age on Grindr. I said I was 40...only because anyone I ever meet says I don't look my age. Some had even suggested I lie about my age..so I did. But, when I confirmed my correct age to Kasey when we met, he said it wasn't a problem..that he didn't really care about age.
So? Why would he say that then use that as an excuse? After all, when we left each other he was planning on me coming over to see his "big apartment."
Oh well..his loss.
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He said he thought a married guy would be good for his schedule, but sometimes the married with kids changes that idea. You never know, just as well now. So if you list your age as younger, do you list some other number as bigger?
Loosing the youth vote? I am sure there are some 60 year olds looking for a "twink" in his mid 40's. Maybe you should change your marketing plan!
well, this actually happens quite often.
I usually take about 3-4 yrs off, as people say I look younger- but who knows...
On the other hand, it relly puts me off, if someone obviously looks older than the age he mentioned in his profile.
There are so many things that might change my mind when it comes to going to bed.
But I fully agree, I would like to get clear statements, know where I am standing.
This often does not happen and it takes a while to get over this.
Take care
Seems like the guy has issue of "honesty" himself - first saying age is not an issue, then saying the reason he wants to take a pass is you lied about your age. Why get involved with anyone like that? On the subject of age, a ways back several guys weighed in on what "acceptable" age adjustment they felt was OK - with the idea that if one is in good shape for one's age, one looks younger and is perceived by others that way.
It was Rob the Breeder who said, use the 10% rule as the limit - if you are 45, and in looking good, 40 on your A4A profile was OK. A really in shape 60 year old might pass for 54 or 55. Since there seems to more about how guys under 30 view everyone over that age, not sure that saying you are 40 instead of 45 would ever snare a guy better.
But then there are those younger men who go for older guys - I was getting guys 25 to 30 years younger than me wanting to hook up when I was active on-line. Other bloggers in their 50's or even older have found the same pattern - and many of these young guys are great looking, well built, and sexy! Maybe you should say you are 50 and see who shows up!! Or maybe you ARE 50?
I never enjoy the blow-off feeling.
good text! paso de verdad?
I do the same thing he does. If someone lies about their age, I don't know what else they might be lying about including STD status.
I guess he thought it over and decided what is best for him. I think he was being as honest as he could that you were not the one for him. I do believe Drew said it best perhaps you should market yourself as a Twink to older gentleman. This way you are the one in control and perhaps you might make a few bucks, free meals or a nice vacation for yourself. You could intro him as your mentor, no one would ever figure out that you are Gay with an older guy. You should think about it! Still I am sorry for your loss it seems that this has not been your year for finding that special someone... Retool and get back out!
Guys in their thirty's are mostly a lost cause to begin with. Half of them are bitter because they are no longer in their twenties and the other half are bitter cause forty is just around the corner!
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