Hump Day: Arden

Craigs Crazy

I really don't understand Craigslist and it's very frustrating.


You look on there, and you see lots of the same type of guys posting..and most of them are the same one's over and over again. The whores, the rub-and-tug guys, the fuck me now guys...the gross, the ugly, the nasty....

I've tried to use CL. Now, when I try and post, I get rejected because they want me to enter a phone number for verification. Since that number was associated with another account - I get rejected. How do these other guys post time after time, the same guys, the same posts, the massage guys..the guys asking for money, and I can't post one legitimate post!

Then, if I finally get a post online, I get flagged, or ghosted. Why? Who knows..I'm too specific I guess. I list everything..all my stats, and list what I'm into. Relationship oriented..and list what I'm looking for in another guy stats-wise.

That gets me flagged....then, I see the other posts that get through..guys looking for money, quick sex, nasty unsafe sex, guys who post time and time again without getting flagged. They're prostitutes and axe murderers.

Makes you wonder what Craig's beef is with normal, relationship oriented guys.

Hottest Sex Ever

I called a guy I was chatting with on Grindr, at his urging. I was reluctant at first, because, well, first, it means I have to find some alone time at work, step out or something, and also, the first time I called someone from Grindr they asked how much I would pay him for sex. When I told him not only wouldn't I pay, and I wouldn't bother to charge him either. ;) That ended that conversation.


This other guy seemed nice. He's married, 27 years old, 5'11" and 160 lbs. Little by way of pics, so I'm hesitant, but I call.  We chat a little about different things, our marriages, when we knew we were into guys, our experiences, and past relationships.

"What was the hottest sex you ever had?" he asks.
"Listen, I'm not into phone sex. If you've got your cock in your hands, and are looking for me to talk to you to get off, I don't want to be involved." I say.
"No" he laughs. "Just asking. Want to know. I mean, yea, I've got my cock in my hand, but this isn't about phone sex. I've had my cock in my hands all day." he says.
"Well to me sex is only great if you care about someone. I've had lots of sex with lots of guys...the hottest sex wasn't necessarily because of the what we did, but how we got there." I explain.

"I used to date a guy. We dated for over 2 years, and broke up about a year ago. We were, and still are very good friends, worked out together, lunches, dinner, and we went away a lot together." I explained to him the situation, the guy my readers all know as Ross.


"The hottest sex we had was when we went away somewhere. It was probably the first time we were away, without anyone else, other people that worked with him. I forget the place, Indiana, Wyoming, Tennessee...it didn't matter..but, it was a place that nobody knew us, nobody recognized us. We could act and do what we wanted, and nobody would ever know except him and I." I went on...

"We checked into our hotel, and it was late, so we changed into shorts, and we quickly headed to dinner. We picked out a big round table booth in the back of the restaurant, ordered our drinks and proceeded to get totally wasted as we talked, ate and laughed.  The waitress kept coming over, bringing us more drinks and we kept drinking. We talked and were at ease with each other..comfortable, having a great time. We were sitting close..close enough that our bare legs could touch. Sometimes our arms touched..but, more than the physical touching was the mental and emotional connection that was made that night."

"We actually couldn't finish our drinks at the restaurant and got "to go cups"..which was kinda funny. We took a cab back to our hotel and spent our first full night next to each other in bed, making out, having sex and laying incredibly close till morning."

I continued: "The best sex I ever had began in public in that restaurant and continued hours later in a hotel room next to someone I really cared about."

"Wow" he said. "That's incredible!."

Yes it was.

Thanks for Giving

There are reasons why Thanksgiving has become my favorite holiday. Yes, there's the seemingly hundreds of family members that gather every year that we get to spend time with. And of course, there's the food. While the food is some of my favorites (like turkey and stuffing), as you know, thousands of dips, chips and other assorted hors d'oeuvres followed by massive quanities of trough after trough of high calorie, high fat and cholesterol laden delicacies isn't my idea of stimulating eating. But, Thanksgiving has become, in our family, a time of giving.

For the past 10 years, I've gone with my children to the nearby Church to feed the homeless. We set up for the hundreds of people down on their luck to provide, at least on this day, one good meal and some happy memories. We serve the food, help clean and provide security for the days event. My kids already know that's the agenda for the morning/early afternoon and don't complain about it.  I think, and hope, that the few hours of community service on this day allows for some perspective for an otherwise sheltered life that typical middle class children have each and every day.

Afterward, of course there's the annual Thanksgiving Day family football game (with yours truly completing 7 touchdown passes to lead the way to our teams victory)! This year, the weather cooperated (and my shoulder too) and a great game was had by all.  It really is about family and fun. 

I hope all of you had a great Thanksgiving Holiday (for those that celebrate - some of us US residents don't realize that those out of the USA don't celebrate Thanksgiving - such a shame! And maybe next year, you too can give your own Thanks by Giving back.

A Man's Man

Chaz Bono, formerly Chastity Bono, the daughter of Sonny and Cher is a transgender man. Bono came out to both parents as lesbian at age 18. In Family Outing, Bono wrote that, "as a child, I always felt there was something different about me. I'd look at other girls my age and feel perplexed by their obvious interest in the latest fashion, which boy in class was the cutest, and who looked the most like cover girl Christie Brinkley. When I was 13, I finally found a name for exactly how I was different. I realized I was gay."



In mid-2008, Bono began undergoing a physical and social gender transition from female to male. This was confirmed in June 2009 by his publicist, who identified Bono's preferred name as Chaz Bono and said, "It is Chaz's hope that his choice to transition will open the hearts and minds of the public regarding this issue, just as his coming out did." GLAAD and the Empowering Spirits Foundation were quick to offer praise and support for the announcement. Bono's legal transition was completed on May 7, 2010, when a California court granted his request for a gender and name change. He chose the name "Chaz Salvatore Bono" in honor of his parents. Bono made Becoming Chaz, a documentary film about his gender transition that premiered at the 2011 Sundance Film Festival. OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network acquired the rights to the documentary and debuted it on May 10, 2011.

More recently, in September 2011, Bono became a competitor on the 13th season of the US version of Dancing with the Stars with partner Lacey Schwimmer. Chaz was eliminated October 25th.

Recently, Chaz appeared on Howard Stern's Sirius/XM radio show. It was his first major interview since his exit from "Dancing with the Stars." He discussed many topics, including his relationship with his famous parents, his girlfriend, and his new documentary "Being Chaz."

But, obviously, despite the additional procedures needed by Chaz to make male genitalia, his testosterone supplements have truly made him a man. He discusses how his personality has changed..how he finds women "yappy" and has told his girlfriend "don't you every shut-up?" His ability to tolerate the emotional roller-coaster of the opposite sex has been tested.

He does say that he feels that masturbating to women is insulting (you need more testosterone Chaz!) However, from trying to deal with conversations with his girlfriend to farting- Chaz has joined the ranks of being a man.


At some point, he may find out that becoming a man is the easy part..it's dealing with women that may be more challenging.

Nail in the Coffin

HAPPY THANKSGIVING GUYS>>>TODAY'S POST:

kevin 4:45 pm

    i'm sorry bout the other day

bilikeme 4:45 pm
    yea?

 kevin 4:45 pm
    yeah idk i just got nervous for some reaosn

 bilikeme 4:45 pm
    what?
    thats odd
    no call? no text
    whats there to be nervous about?

 kevin 4:46 pm
    i know, just was having some personal issues

bilikeme 4:46 pm
    ok
    so..then nothing about me..
    then why would u be nervous?

 kevin 4:47 pm
    idk im just weird sometimes

 bilikeme 4:47 pm
    ur telling me!
    lol

 kevin 4:47 pm
    hahah i could make it up to u tho

 bilikeme 4:47 pm
    mhm

 kevin 4:47 pm
    if u'd let me that is lol

 bilikeme 4:47 pm
    well..
    maybe id like to hear what u have planned
    lol
    but, i like u..u were nice..just dont know why ur so weird all of a sudden

 kevin 4:48 pm
    idk either haha

 bilikeme 4:48 pm
    k
    nothing i should know about?

kevin 4:49 pm
hahaha nahh, idk i just have issues when it comes to guys, even when its just sex haha

 bilikeme 4:49 pm
    ok
    well..u dont really have to have issues w/ me
    thought we were cool together

 kevin 4:49 pm
    we were, and it was really hot, and ur really sexy and nice and sweet

 bilikeme 4:49 pm
    thanks..

 kevin 4:49 pm
    lol

 bilikeme 4:49 pm
    lol
    i mean if something comes up..or somethings wrong..just text me..or im me..just let me know
    i feel like im being played

 kevin  4:50 pm
    i know, i'm really sorry, i wouldn't like it done to me, so i really am sorry for doing that to you
    but i really will make it up to u
    any way u want

 bilikeme 4:51 pm
    well..i dont need to have anything over on u..just follow thru and im into it

 kevin 4:51 pm
    alright lol

 bilikeme 4:51 pm
    just lemme know when ur around

 kevin 4:51 pm
    well are u busy today?

 bilikeme 4:51 pm
    today? yea..today doesnt work 

 kevin 4:53 pm
    we can try for another day

 bilikeme 4:53 pm
    ok.
    well..just get in touch just don't flake on me again

    this is ur last shot.

 kevin 4:54 pm
    i wont

    maybe we should meet thursday afternoon. ;-) 

 bilikeme 4:57 pm

    yea? that may work. could use something hot then

 kevin 5:00 pm
    haha
    so it was hot with me?

 bilikeme 5:00 pm
    with u?
    eh..ur a work in progress
    lol

 kevin 5:01 pm
    ouchh

 bilikeme 5:01 pm
    potential
    lol
    no..with you..sex was steaming hot

 kevin 5:01 pm
    ok good answer haha

 bilikeme 5:01 pm
    lol

 kevin 5:01 pm
    and i agree

 bilikeme 5:01 pm
    lol

 kevin 5:01 pm
    i'm getting hard right now thinking about it haha

 bilikeme 5:01 pm
    lol me too!


***

Kevin texts me the next day, as planned, and his place wasn't available. I suggested we meet at a motel (the same motel Ross and I used to go to on occasion). He was into it..again, seems very passionate about us meeting again, so seems good.

In our texts he seems to have gone back to the Kevin that I remembered...giving me "kisses" through texts, and asking what I wanted him to wear when we met (I said he looks great naked so, come naked!).

"I just want to put it out there...what do you think about not using a condom. I was tested 2 weeks ago, and you were the last guy I had sex with so I'm all clean. I just want to feel you inside me...bare."
I was a little shocked...

"Well, I don't know. It's certainly tempting. Would love that too. But, let's use one today, and talk about it." I said.

I mean, I haven't had sex without a condom in years..since Ross. And we were together..like commitment wise. We weren't having sex with anyone else. How do I feel about having sex with Kevin without protection? Well, I don't see no ring on this finger...lol

After-all, he disappeared on me..and I can't really feel any security in this relationship..yet. Maybe in time..maybe I'll change my mind. If any of you guys would see this dudes body..shit..you wouldn't believe it.

Anyway..off to have some fun. I'll fill you in later for sure.

***

So, an update:

I wait..and wait and wait for Kevin to text me..that he's done with his shower and ready to meet. 30 minutes, an hour..then I text him..call..text again..call again. Nothing. Not a thing.

Very weird..maybe I'm better off not dealing with this shit..no matter how hot the ass and sex is. I man, was the Question of bareback sex a test? a deal breaker? I didn't get that impression when he asked..not that I would have changed my mind.

I'm done with the disappearing act - it's me who's disappearing now.

Hump Day: Chris Downs

Lost and Found

I'm no computer genius..it's kinda trial and error here at the executive offices of BLM.  Well, finally, I've figured out how to make a favicon. If you don't know what that is it's short for "favorite icon". I've made mine..and you can now see it on my site up to the left of the web address (see the BLM?)
Nice huh?!  Always finding ways to make my blog distinct..different and exciting to view. It just may take a little longer than the rest!

Anyway..back to today's post...

I figured, let bygones be bygones, right?

It's been weeks since I've spoken to Kevin. Last he said that he wanted to hang out again, but that his place wasn't available anymore. But, shit, it's been months since I've seen his amazing body or been in that hot ass of his. So, I decided to send him a text message.

See, it looked like he was avoiding me for some reason. HE wasn't on Grindr anymore, deleted his A4A account and just kinda disappeared. All this after things were going so well!

When I text him, he responds..and it was all good.

"Where have you been?" I asked.
"Busy with school and all." he says. "But I miss you."
"Great..well, when do I get to see you again?" I ask.
"Well, like I said, my place is hard to get anymore."
"So how about we get a motel" I say giving him no excuse.
"That would work, you want to hang tomorrow?" he offers
"Yea, for sure."
"OK, and if my place becomes available, we could go there." he says.

Great..so now..hopefully..some hot quality ass is back on the agenda.

Newton's Apple

Think I have it easy, huh? Poor BLM, that nasty, filthy, hyper-sexed fiend breaks his vows, cheats on his wife, and probably kicks the dog too when he gets home! I don't know how good I have it, right? Well, maybe so..but things aren't all peaches and cream...

They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, and I can tell you from my experience, this is true. If I can give any advice to someone who is going to get married, thinking of marriage, is engaged, dating, in love, in lust, wanting to elope, or living together with someone....before taking the plunge, take a look at your potential in-laws.

You're in-laws are the future of your mate. Yes, look at them. Are they odd? Weird? Angry? Your spouse may appear calm and collected at the moment, but given time, that will change.

My in-laws are..on a good day, impossible. They are a nervous bundle of irrational, easily excitable, stressful, inferno of energy.  Heard the weather today? Rain in the forecast? They're freaking that the trees near them will fall, their gutters overflow, the basement flood and that Noah won't be stopping at their house to pick them up. They're on every channel, not surfing for the best shows, but analyzing the Doppler weather more closely than Al Roker.

Heard the news on the latest medical outbreak? They're worried sick over it. Neighbors having a party to celebrate the graduation of their child from College? My in-laws hate those fucking neighbors, those loud, annoying sons-of-bitch kike, nigger, towel head, wops.


My in-laws seemed nice when I met them. Eccentric, yea, maybe, but the stories were entertaining, funny, and they were likable. But, over time those characteristics accentuate..get worse..and now? They're just people you try and ignore..they have no friends, no jobs, no family members that talk to them anymore, no hobbies, no idea how to eat healthy, take care of themselves - either financially or medically. The dosage for the medication they take to calm those nerves need to be increased..doubled, tripled..hell, take it all!

Now, I bring all this fun stuff up, because, yea, I see some of these things appearing in my wife now.  Incidents of minor concern causes needless discussion and worry. I can imagine the contractors at my house rolling their eyes almost as much as I do when she's explaining how she wants something done. The kids are run to the doctor at the first sign of a sniffle. She makes a mountain out of a molehill and she hates the fact that I don't acknowledge the travesty about to befall us all! You guys think I have it easy..lol..I don't want to complain..but, it ain't all my fault.


Like her parents, she has little motivation to workout or take care of herself. She dreads it and, frankly, it's starting to show. Eating right for a mid-fourties Mom? There is no diet anymore...snacks and ice-cream are foods of choice. Don't get me wrong, she's a great mother and there's no comparison to how her mother raised her (thank god). But if I look at the future, it ain't a pretty site.

Yes, the apple don't fall far from the tree folks - and some of them apple's are crab apples.


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The Business of Football

Should anything be that important? So important that you turn your head away from child abuse - god, more than abuse..outright molestation was taking place in the Penn State locker rooms!


If you haven't heard (then come out from under your rock) the Penn State head football coach, Joe Paterno, and president, Graham B. Spanier, were fired last week for failing to notify law enforcement officials in 2002 that they had received a credible report that former assistant coach Jerry Sandusky raped a young boy in the locker room showers.  This coach, who has been revered for the past 46 years as Penn's football coach, was informed by Mike McCreary, an Assistant Coach, that he witnessed Sandusky engaging in sexual acts with a boy of 10. Paterno notified the University President. Since that report by McCreary, neither he, Paterno nor Spanier notified police.

Now, while none of the acts, or more precisely, "non-acts" of the three were technically illegal (none of the men are obligated by law to notify the police),  you would think a moral conscience would force the men to follow up on their initial notifications. Surely, McCreary and Paterno are guilty of a moral ineptness..and Spanier is guilty of complete disregard to society's moral compass.

Now if you think College Sports is just an activity for the student body, you'd be wrong. Often, the quality of a College's sports program is paramount, not only to the student, but to the University in drawing new students (read money), advertisement (read money), notoriety (read money) and revenue (read lots of money).

From College Sports Business News

"But the cash flow creates a dependency on sports that makes it difficult for universities to put (it) in jeopardy. So when a scandalous or criminal allegation is raised, it may be morally right to conduct a public investigation or go to the police, but it's not in the best financial interests of the school.

Still don't think college sports is about money? Already the credit-rating agency Moody's is looking into downgrading Penn State on the assumption that it will lose sponsorship, donations and enrolment as a result of the scandal and the firing of Paterno. "

Sandusky is now accused of assaulting eight boys over 15 years, and he denies the charges. McCreary has been put on administrative leave, Spanier fired and "Joe Pa" Paterno also has been fired.  That firing brought hundreds of college students to his side to demonstrate against his "unfair termination". At that demonstration, Penn State students rioted, turned over news trucks and showed the same moral standards that mis-guided it's staff.

The University has since distanced themselves from those initial unruly reactions by having candle-light vigils and collecting money for victims of sexual abuse. But, one must wonder why the business of college football should be more important than a child's welfare and if what we're teaching the new generation is worthy of all that money we spend on so called "education".
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Beverly Hills

If you're an avid reader of Bi Like Me, you may have come across the comments of a reader: Bev.
Here is an open letter to Bev (and others like her)..from me.

Bev:

You are obviously an intelligent woman, and a valued contributor to my blog and insightful commenter.  But, you, like me, like everyone out there, has an "agenda". Society has imposed on us different biases..whether it's because of ethnicity, religion, sexual preference, wealth status or sex. In addition to these biases, we also have those tendencies because of our upbringing, and other experiences in life.  We are molded by these biases and experiences to be what we are today.

You know about my experiences and upbringing. I've been completely honest about those on my blog. I don’t get an acknowledgement from you that this honesty, at least, promotes healthy discussion.  What are your experiences? I could guess, from your comments, even if I didn't know your sex, that you were a woman. Your statement are completely slanted against the other species - it's like watching the Oprah show (the old ones not the new and improved OWN network, which of course is gender neutral lol). I also could guess that perhaps in the past you've been scorned..maybe more than once, by a man. Maybe your father committed terrible acts against you or your mother..maybe it was some acts of former boyfriends or a husband.

I'm not bringing this up to be mean, but to point out that things are not always black and white – as you seem to always profess. There is a benefit to me keeping my marriage and family intact - both to me and my wife and kids. There are financial benefits as well as child rearing advantages to a traditional family unit.  There's the fact that drug use is more prevalent among "broken homes" and that criminals often are reared out of one parent households. You may also be surprised that there is a history between my wife and I and a friendship and emotional support system that survives to this day. Do you recognize this? You can never see that there is a benefit to others in this marriage..you just want the disclosure that apparently, you didn’t have the benefit of in your life or failed relationships.

The divorce rate in the United States is 51%.  Were all those men bad men? Are the failed marriages completely their fault? I think not. Do you think my thoughts about oral sex and women is unique? Is it because I sleep with men that my wife has decided that sex isn’t worth the effort? Please! If you have any married friends, if they were honest with you (and I believe most women probably are not honest with their women friends about it) they would tell you that their marriages are far from perfect – the statistics after all  - support this. However, I think men usually are pretty clear about the status of their marriages..I’ve spoken to them..I have friends apart from this blog, but I also I hear it on this blog. The men consistently say that sex is not what it used to be before they got married.  They also say that oral sex is usually the first to go.

Now I have never said that I stopped satisfying my wife via oral sex and that is when she stopped giving blow jobs. As a matter of fact, I often went down on my wife for many years, without the expectation that it would be reciprocated (I said expectation – but there was always hope!). Sex didn’t change for us when I became interested in men..I was always interested in men. It changed when my wife decided it would..independent of me. Maybe she could have done more..maybe she could have experimented..been more loving…more aggressive…made herself more desirable.  And yes, maybe I could have been more forthcoming.  But, I never said my marriage was the illusive perfect one.

I can’t believe anybody, south of the Connecticut Stepford Wives, would search out a mate based on bringing home a “good wife” to Mom theory that you have suggested.  Every man would tell you that ideally, they would love the “good wife” out of the bedroom, but a slut in the bedroom. Sex is, after all, the only thing that drives us men (check out the prevalence of porn, the success of prostitution, the availability of masturbation lubes and mechanisms – all targeted toward men).  Unless I’m a horse and buggy Amish blacksmith, I’m looking for a great mother for my child who has the flexibility of Nadia Comaneci (the famous Romanian gymnast) in bed.  Are you telling me that that combination isn’t available? Is being a good mother and being good in bed and sexually aware mutually exclusive? Tell Angelina Jolie that..Pamela Anderson, Cameron Diaz, Elle Macpherson and Sarah Jessica Parker.

Sex should be important to a partner – important enough that they want to be pleased..important enough to be pleasing. After all, despite the fact that perfect sexual relations involves pleasing another and often, thought of as being selfless - sex is a selfish act. You please another to ultimately get pleased back. The end result is usually orgasm.  – and you are hoping one of those is your own!  Yes, there are those that please just to please..without the necessity of reciprocation..but unless you have the money for one of those people, it's hard to find.

I have to tell you, I could count on my hand the number of times my orgasm occurred before I was sure that my wife got off (when we did have sex regularly). I always believed and wanted her to be satisfied first..and I always practiced that in bed.  Did she show the same interest in pleasing me? You could say that maybe she never truly appreciated things until they were gone – and by then it was too late.

I don’t think that being fat (and my wife isn’t -yet – but she certainly has not tried to be more in shape and healthy) also isn’t my fault. It’s not a symptom of a bad marriage..of abuse...of lack of sex..of her husband fucking men. It’s a personality flaw – a genetic predisposition that she fails to address and commit to.  I won’t go into the specifics, but suffice it to say that she doesn’t come from a line of healthy, thin family tree. Now, most of us probably do not come from a pristine genealogy. But, to continue a way of life when there is history against you is plain idiocy – and should be a personal goal, not used to send smoke signals to your husband that the marriage is not satisfying. There's heart issues in my family..and high cholesterol is the cause. Do I eat bon-bons and ding-dongs (the fattening kind) blind to my genetic history? No..my lifestyle has benefited me with an incredibly low cholesterol of 150 - without drugs.  Is it my job to encourage her to take better care of herself? Have you been in the room when I’ve asked encouragingly if she’s going to the gym today? Or explained nicely that a 900 calorie breakfast is not what they mean by “the most important meal of the day”? Or when we talk how family genetics can only be countered by exercise and proper nutrition? Or that I’ve tried to lead by example..by going to the gym..by eating well..and taking care of myself?

Yes, I generalize in my blog. Yes there are those that have healthy marriages – although I suspect it is about 25% (I would think that even some of the 49% of marriages that do not end in divorce are also imperfect – mine is one of them).  We all generalize. Blacks all have big cocks, Latin women love sex, Jews are cheap, Muslims are all terrorists, all dogs hate cats..and all women hate giving blowjobs. Yes, all those statements may not be true all the time.

My blog is biased..from a man’s point of view (I am a man). It is from the point of view of a married man (I am married) and from a man who engages in extramarital affairs with other men. Am I gay? Bi? Is my blog mis-named? Yes, no, who the fuck cares? Call it what you want…but, most visitors keep coming back for more – no matter what the name. It's easy to pick someone apart who puts himself out there everyday..easy to find loopholes, easy to say you should do this, or do that.One of the reasons I don't often respond to every comment is it is impossible for me to defend myself..not only do I know that what I do is indefensible, but also because I can't deftly defend every single misconception and feeling that other strangers have about me. I can say one tiny thing (for instance a sarcastic joke)..and it gets totally misconstrued by some..while others clearly get it. If I responded to every comment..I wouldn't have the time to write the actual blog entries themselves..and frankly..this blog would be more work than it already is.  I'm sure some will pick this letter apart and say AHA! he didn't say so and so..I can't be bothered with such trivialities.

Bev, you see how I gave you a few compliments in the beginning of this post? I can see there is good in a person who clearly is against my lifestyle – my agenda –  even someone I have not met. I know that you're opinions are important..and are worthy of expression. I also know that they come from a person who has been shaped by her gender and experiences, like we all have - and that's the beauty of blogging and receiving comments, isn't it? It should be an open discussion..and place to share ideas, thoughts and experiences based on your background.

I think, however, that for those commenters who find fault in what I do - we can agree to disagree: we can remain on amicable terms while continuing to disagree about some of the issues that surround this blog - but even for that - there has to be some common ground - something that you acknowledge is positive about this blog, my life, or me.  Hopefully one day, you can find some good in what a man does..even though you've been pre-dispositioned to disagree with him.

Hump Day: Ricky

Break Break

I don't know what the problem was, but I hadn't heard from Kevin in a few weeks. After his "MIA" message to me, and my kinda pissed off response, he was really MIA.

But, good sex is better than bad, and defintiely better than no sex at all. I figured I'll try and make amends. I see him on Grindr and send him a message.

"Hey..Go away for break?" I ask.
"Yea, for a few days went upstate to visit my sister. Nothing big."  he responds.
"Nice, better than staying in town." I say.
"Yea, was good. Looking forward to a trip in June though. That will be my real vacation"

Then we spoke about that trip for a little..

"Well, just wanted to touch base...say hi." I said.
"How have you been?" he asks.
"OK. Busy at work the last few weeks."

I definitely wouldn't be opposed to hanging with Kevin again. He's probably the top one or two I've had sex with. Hot body, nice guy, totally clean.. just a hot, hot bottom. But, I have the tendency of getting attached and maybe that's what drove him away.  Maybe when I was there last, I was there too long (he invited me  to stay after all). I would love to have a regular hot guy for sex, and he fits the bill...but, maybe I need to keep him at a distance. I'm not one to play the "hard to get" type. I want something, I go for it..I'm into someone, I let them know. I think someone's hot, I say it.

Maybe this will be the beginning of us getting back to some very hot sex.

Ya Gotta Love it

I know I'll generalize with this statement, but it seems that every woman hates giving blow jobs.

Anyone I've ever spoken to, usually married guys, complain that their wives don't or stopped giving them blow jobs. When they're trying to reel you in, their all about slobbing the knob..but once they get that ring, the proverbial "BJ Store" is closed.  Now I'm sure there are those girls (and I could probably guess who of my girl readers are part of this group) that enjoy giving their man this pleasure, but, I think it's a lost art.

But, if you ask any gay or bi guy if they like giving head, the answer is absolutely YES! Why the disparity? Well, I guess girls are worried about the geyser rush of cum that spurts out getting in their mouth.  I, for one, don't require that someone swallow my load, or that I even cum in their mouth. That's just a bonus. So, just suck it ladies! Your guys want it..need it..

Guys don't care. They're all about pleasing each other. Suck it? Sure..blow in my mouth? No problem...Do guys give better blow jobs than girls? Sure..but again, it's all because they do it with wreck-less abandon..not caring about the end result. Girls are so worried..sucking scared..always thinking they're one lick away from a mouthful.


Guys who suck other guys do it out of the love..the love of another man, the look of cock, the love of pleasing another guy. But, that's us: we eat out our girl's pussy with the same effort and passion, don't we? Hey, I never "loved" eating pussy, but did it because it pleased (or was supposed to please) my mate. I suck dick with the same idea -  it's about pleasuring - being selfless...

Guys do it because they love it.
Girls are just in it for the money.

Ethnic Bias

From a reader:

Good morning, author of Bi Like Me. I hope you are well today.

My name is Rob. I'm an older (45-50 y.o.) masculine bisexual male, living in Michigan. I've been a reader/follower of your blog for several months.

First, thank you for creating and posting, and maintaining such a great blog on the Web! Second, today, I gave BLM a rating (on both the rating links you provided) of 5/5 stars. Of course, I did so because I really like your blog! So much so, that I made it one of my homepages! The site is clean and clear in appearance, easy to navigate; embedded links open to a new page so that I never have to leave the blog's home page.  Your articles are written well, mature, and make sense. Also, I appreciate not being hit with pictures of outright, bold nudity, sex acts, or little gif's pics depicting as much whenever I visit. When I want that sort of thing (and often times I do!) I know where to go to get it, bust a nut, and go on with the rest of my day. When I simply want to read what other people have on their minds, (and take in a little eye candy at the same time), I go to what I call "reader blogs" like yours. In those moments, I'm not necessarily horny; I simply want to chill, maybe cup my balls as I look at the eye candy, and read the things others are thinking about on issues I find also interesting (or perhaps have not yet thought about). Although I hate ads just like the next guy, I am in the media business. Therefore, I understand that ads are often necessary on a blog as they are the "bread & butter) of any blog or website. I appreciate that you have the ads in places on your page so that the reader knows they are there but don't interfere or cause readers to lose focus on the blog material itself. Kool!

 
I made a short positive comment about BLM on the PLU rating site. My limit was 200 characters. What I wish I could have added was one little criticism. While I support you doing the blog in your own way and, while I have no problem with seeing all white men ('cuz I like them too and think they're hot!) I would like to ask that you consider featuring men (or more men) of other ethnic groups. Perhaps you have done this or are currently doing this (and I overlooked it). I have yet to check out the blog archives. Just the same, I have not seen nor do I see any Black/African-American, Latino, or Asian men on BLM. I'm sure that I am not the only Black man that visits BLM. Again, as stated earlier, I enjoy visiting. Still, there are so many good gay blogs that I like but many of them rarely show pictures of other ethnic groups. I could never understand this. I want to see more men that look like me on clean, well-made sites/blogs like yours, as I'm sure men in other ethnic groups want to see men that look like them. 

Anyway, whether or not you choose to feature pics of other ethnic men will not be the "make or break" factor for whether or not I continue to visit BLM. You do what you feel works for you and keep it (the blog) looking and "reading" good, and I'll continue to follow. I just wanted you to know my comments/opinion as a faithful reader. I will continue to visit Bi Like Me for as long as you, the author, keeps it.

Thanks for listening!!

~ Rob

Rob:

There's definitely no ethnic bias here...I appreciate men of all sizes and colors.  It's just that blogs out there, for the most part, feature mostly white, smooth, young men. Since that's where most of my pics come from, it's what seems to be featured.  There are a few blogs that I have in my blog roll that are more ethnic, and a few Asian blogs too..and I will do my best to mix it up a little!

Thanks for writing!

-BLM

Back and Forth

A guy chats me on Grindr. He's 25 years old, tall - even taller than me. Seems nice as we're chatting. He's very handsome too. He sends me some body pics...first one he's pretty hairy...second, smooth. I tell him I love the smooth look, and he says he has no problem satisfying my desires. I tell him I buzz my body, but he likes hairy, so I told him I'll let it grow.

Anyway, we chat for a while, and seems like we're a good match. We end up meeting somewhere neutral, in a parking lot and we chat in our respective cars..window to window. Nice conversation..real nice guy and he's really super cute.

I mention that he's cute and he says "Thanks been told that before" with a chuckle. I laugh too, and tell him "how modest!" but, in actuality what bothered me more was that he didn't say anything back..not like "You're cute too" or anything.

So, while he did chat me the next day..and said he wants to see me naked..maybe that's telling. I mean, if someone gives you a compliment, it should be  natural that they give one back. Unless they're not feeling it.

Hump Day: Logan Taylor

You guys lucked out yesterday..through some big computer glitch over at the Bi Like Me headquarters IT department (i.e., me not having my coffee early enough) I posted two entries yesterday..so I'm taking the rest of the month off! Actually..it will be business as usual. So, you can look forward to more shit from me..every day (and apparently, some days - two piles of shit!)

But, for today..I bring you some Hump Day hot stuff. Enjoy!