Pen Pals

I have been looking online quite a bit for that special someone.  One guy did get in touch with me a while ago.  We continued to chat..and he definitely seems nice.  In his early 30's, has a serious girlfriend, and by his stats, seems to be in shape, and good looking, although he hasn't confirmed that with a pic.

We have continued to chat for over a month, initially, just as friends.  He lives in the city, quite a distance from me. With my busy schedule and his busy schedule, it's very hard to make time to meet up, and we've tried a few times with no luck.

I explained to him that it's great having him as a chat buddy, but I'm looking for someone who I can see even for 5 minutes one day to say hi.  Not go 3 months without seeing.  That's the bi-closeted conundrum isn't it? You want to have a "relationship" with another guy, but you don't have the time with work and family obligations, or the discretion to be able to do so.  It only works where the two people live or work near each other.  At least for me.

It's great to have a pen pal.  The guy's genuinely a good guy.  Maybe if we lived closer, he could have the potential to be more than that.  But, I'm not looking for a pen pal, I'm looking for a bed pal.