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My name is ****  I am a gay man who enjoys reading blogs.  I am a little bit older than you but as i read more of your blog i am compelled to write.  I grew up in the 70's..homosexuality was very taboo.  I was raised in a very catholic home.  Went to catholic school and was even an altar boy.  I grew up in a very small town in western pennsylvania.  I had a friend who lived 7 houses up the street from me.  We are one month apart in age.  We went to school together and were playmates.  He and I were not the most masculine of guys but there was never a discussion about our sexuality.  As we grew older into high school he felt some of my friends were not the right type of folks to hang around with.  He was always and still is concerned with what others think.  While i was in college he came around to hang out from time to time. He explained why he distanced himself from me during those high school years.   I had girlfriends..but knew i was interested in guys.  He met a very wonderful girl and they started a relationship.  We would go out together all three of us.  I had some suspicions because at that point in time i was accepting who i was.  I was part of the wedding and i jokingly said that if he ever came out of the closet and broke her heart i would kill him.  Well just about 20 years later and one child approaching teen years..He met a guy..a guy who was much younger..and he started an affair.  Anyway in a short time he and the wife had the conversation.  They separated.  They are not divorced yet but that is only because she is an angel and has allowed him to take his time.  They will never get back together but i always look at her and think why could he not stand on his own two feet.  I came out to them both 20 years ago.  She has a lesbian sister.  She was always accepting of me and who i was.  She never was worried about me around their son.  She never would make snide comments about homosexuality.

I know acceptence of who we are takes time and in every case it is different.  I am not preaching to you nor do i want to upset you but as a single gay male who has problems finding a decent guy please just get the strength to be yourself.  I know you write that you know who you are and what you want...but i wonder.

I am sorry if this is a bit rambling but i am tired it is late...

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